We always tell people to learn from their mistakes. But before we ever even get to the point, we need to have the courage to make mistakes.
As a new parent, there is always a careful balance between caring for our son and being over protective. We couldn’t love our son more, but we also realize that we have to encourage him to get up and brush himself off when he falls. And in order to do that, he’s got to know that it’s ok to stumble and fall sometimes. (only short distances)
It’s a funny thing when you watch children running around and playing. If you ever see a small child trip and fall down. They don’t cry right away, they look up and see our reactions. Then if we get shocked and come running over and start fussing over them, they start to cry. If you just gently say, “It’s ok. Go on and catch up with your friends.” They just get up and go on.
I’m not saying ignore your kid if they are hurt. (Disclaimer of liability) But, you can tell the difference when they are they are hurt and when they are just shocked a bit and looking to you for a reaction.
What are we trying to teach our son when we tell him to get up and catch up to his friends?
We are telling him that it’s ok to run and be bold. If you trip and fall, just get up and go on. Don’t be afraid of the small stumbles.
This lesson stays the same as children grow to adulthood.
How often do we see young adults afraid to take a risk because they don’t want to make a mistake?
The fear of failure holds us back more than any reality of a mistake.
I’ve made plenty of mistakes in my lifetime. Partly because I’m hard headed, and also because I like to learn by doing. Some mistakes I’ve made have been big ones and have affected me for several years. Others were small ones.
What I’ve found is that as long as I pick myself up and keep on going, there are no mistakes that are so permanent that they are completely irreversible.
If I pick myself up and keep running, I can catch up with my friends.
The second thing I’ve learned is that by climbing out of that hole I’ve dug makes me more resilient. I’ve not only overcome my mistakes, but I’ve learned in the process.
When I pick myself up and run to catch up to my friends, by the time I’ve caught up to them, I’ve trained myself to run faster and further. That stumble and fall has given me the opportunity to train to win that next race.
The next time I run that race, I am better prepared to win it.
But all of these lessons would go wasted if I hadn’t learned to pick myself up in the first place.
One day, I would love to see my son picking himself up and winning that race. I would love to watch him apply this lesson to be bold. Be bold in life, be bold in business, and for all of us, be bold in blogging!